my "House Rules"

My parents weren’t exactly intentional about what to instill in me and I was never really exposed to religion or any other set of guiding principles that would help me navigate my life ahead.

As a result, I’ve had to acquire my own set of principles through personal lessons learned. I call these my “House Rules,” which I build upon as I go:

  • actions have consequences

  • inaction has consequences

  • your mind has to be stronger than your emotions

  • you are what you do

  • what you think about you become

  • the process is the reward

  • becoming is better than being

  • lying is hurtful, not helpful

  • sometimes you fall

  • no one is coming

  • if not you, then who?

  • anything worth doing in life requires consistency

  • the health of your relationship with someone else is determined by how toxic your own relationship with yourself is

  • trust is a verb

  • thoughts = currency of the brain, feelings = currency of the body

  • no one is entitled to tomorrow

  • you can get used to anything (for good or for bad)

  • think, feel, label the emotion, breathe, then act

  • own your integrity

  • don’t do what is easy, do what is right

  • relationships work if you work on them

  • deep down you always know

    • trust your inner voice

    • the worst person you can lie to is yourself

  • create good memories and stories

  • what are you unwilling to feel?

  • are you becoming the person you want to be?

  • are you proud of yourself?

  • choose love

  • don’t feed your painful body

  • doing > talking (“productivity is wealth”)

  • the universe notices

  • motion does not equal action

  • live deliberately

  • do you know what day it is?

  • it’s good to take long walks to nowhere

  • progress isn’t binary, returns come from compound interest

  • you become what you think about

  • you don’t discover your life, you create it

happy to expand on any of these, just give me a shout.

xx